Learning To Be Self Aware
Caterpillar asks, “Who are YOU?” to which Alice replies she no longer really knows anymore, after all the recent changes. --Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll
No matter how you feel about your life, you are not in Alice’s Wonderland, where time is suspended. You could feel dazed by the endless list of duties that you trudge through day after day. Time passes, children grow, and you realize you are merely existing through it all. Perhaps you are bewildered or hurting—anxious or confused; there may be times when you feel like Alice, wishing you could shrink yourself in order to hide from the overwhelming responsibilities you face. You may think your life is absurd, wondering as Alice did, if you are the same person as you were yesterday, but I’m here to tell you, you are not losing your senses. Your divorce, the death of your spouse, or coping with a husband who is away a large part of the time for his job, such as military service or sales has left you wondering if you are the same person you used to be. No matter how you became single or almost single, you have now stepped into the complicated world of motherhood without a spouse or partner.
As Alice put it, “I don’t feel like ME any more. I wonder if I’m somebody else after all.” Have you ever felt like Alice, wondering who you actually are? You may have delayed or denied your dreams to be a wife and mother, or quit your job to be a homemaker. In so doing, you made a sacrificial choice. However, your personality’s emotional needs may have suffered. When our emotional needs go unfulfilled, often resentment results, and sometimes, dysfunctional behavior starts taking over our ability to think straight causing all kinds of craziness. If you, like Alice, are wondering if you are indeed yourself, or maybe you’ve never known who your true self is, a look at your God-given Personality Style (G.P.S.) can help you navigate out of the strangeness of this Wonder Land. It’s amazing how easy it is to lose yourself, and how hard it is to find you again, but don’t lose hope, it can be done.
Make it thy business to know thyself, which is the most difficult lesson in the world.
--Miguel de Cervantes
Caterpillar asks, “Who are YOU?” to which Alice replies she no longer really knows anymore, after all the recent changes. --Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll
No matter how you feel about your life, you are not in Alice’s Wonderland, where time is suspended. You could feel dazed by the endless list of duties that you trudge through day after day. Time passes, children grow, and you realize you are merely existing through it all. Perhaps you are bewildered or hurting—anxious or confused; there may be times when you feel like Alice, wishing you could shrink yourself in order to hide from the overwhelming responsibilities you face. You may think your life is absurd, wondering as Alice did, if you are the same person as you were yesterday, but I’m here to tell you, you are not losing your senses. Your divorce, the death of your spouse, or coping with a husband who is away a large part of the time for his job, such as military service or sales has left you wondering if you are the same person you used to be. No matter how you became single or almost single, you have now stepped into the complicated world of motherhood without a spouse or partner.
As Alice put it, “I don’t feel like ME any more. I wonder if I’m somebody else after all.” Have you ever felt like Alice, wondering who you actually are? You may have delayed or denied your dreams to be a wife and mother, or quit your job to be a homemaker. In so doing, you made a sacrificial choice. However, your personality’s emotional needs may have suffered. When our emotional needs go unfulfilled, often resentment results, and sometimes, dysfunctional behavior starts taking over our ability to think straight causing all kinds of craziness. If you, like Alice, are wondering if you are indeed yourself, or maybe you’ve never known who your true self is, a look at your God-given Personality Style (G.P.S.) can help you navigate out of the strangeness of this Wonder Land. It’s amazing how easy it is to lose yourself, and how hard it is to find you again, but don’t lose hope, it can be done.
Make it thy business to know thyself, which is the most difficult lesson in the world.
--Miguel de Cervantes